Guys, I have a confession. I think I have the worst luck with cell phones. They all break, get lost, or spontaneously combust. I once lost a cell phone in a NYC cab. I once lost one on a plane. One got lost in transit in the mail. I’ve cracked screens, dropped things in water. You name it, it’s happened to me.
After having a horrible unresponsive Apple 3G phone, I switched to a Samsung Galaxy S3. Within a month I dropped it in a toilet. I was smartphone-less for about a month. I received a new one in the mail on Monday. MONDAY. Guess what happened today? THURSDAY I dropped it on the concrete floor. Shattered. Broken. Torn. That is my
heart screen right now.
In order to not face embarrassment, I’m getting it fixed over lunch. But really I just can’t stand to look at it, because it’s like staring at the face of stupidity. My face.
I remember one really good article I read on zen habits that stuck with me. It’s about Accepting What Is. He has another (I think), where he talks about practicing stoicism. When something happens, it’s neither good or bad. It just is.
I remember thinking that was impossible. Coming from a largely expressive loud family, the idea of suppressing your reaction to something is ludicrous. But it’s not exactly that, it’s expressing whatever you want. Obviously you can feel whatever you want, but if you accept the reality of what has happened or possibly will, you can be calm and at peace with everything. Now, I can’t be calm and at peace all the time. I have a horrible temper that I have to deal with. But it’s precisely because that temper that I should practice stoicism. I also have a dramatic streak (I know that’s hard to believe). It’s part of my personality, but I’ve learned that skipping a little bit of the drama (not all of it), to get to the peaceful resolve of accepting what is, has contributed greatly to my mental health.
I know sometimes thing happen to us that are unbelievable. Like “Wow this is really happening. Right now. In my life”. And they can be good. And they can be bad. But they just..are. The peace that comes with realizing this is like no other, and I love it.
So yeah I broke my cell phone twice, yeah I’m a little stressed at work, yeah I live in a small apartment and drive a crappy car. But not judging any of those things as good or bad has been…good. For me, personally. At least I have a smart phone to fix, a job to be stressed at, and a car to take me to the beach when I want to. That’s what I should be thinking about.
I’m going to finish with the same quote Leo does on his blog (don’t judge, it’s a great quote).
“Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” – Lao Tzu